Dare to connect – How to meet authentically

When did you really meet someone last time? 
I don’t mean that your body and their body were in the same room.
I mean when did your soul really see another soul? 
We think we meet each other, when we say “hello” or a not really interested “How are you?”, which in most cases is just a phrase. Learned pleasantry. 
When we meet each other, in most cases it’s two masks that are meeting, two roles, two trys to meet the other person's or society's expectations. Assumed expectations that is, because we cannot really know. So we are usually swimming in a sea of uncertainties, assumptions and expectations without being really present with us or the other person. 


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Here are 4 simple steps to enhance the way you meet: 

Step 1: 

Dare to BE who you really are, how you really are.
So... who are you? And what’s your “genuine” behavior? 
What parts of you are unquestioned copies of others. Foreign beliefs, you made your own. Maybe without knowing consciously, like you pick up a slang or dialect automatically when you live at a specific area.
Which behaviour of yours is a consequence of rules, expectations, your own expectations, and your assumptions of other’s expectations. Do you do something to make other people proud, get attention, or even to receive public praise? Or do you do what you do, for it’s own purpose only? Do you give without expecting something back? Are you honest and integer because it’s just the way you are? 
Do you love yourself? Can you accept yourself exactly how you are? All the way? Including all the things you did, and all the things you said?

Step 2: 

Dare to be SEEN as you really are, for whom you really are. 
That includes all your mistakes you may think? Right, .. in a way. 
In fact it excludes many other things: It excludes your titles, position, roles, way of dressing, all your “stories” and ego-pushing activities, all the things you HAVE and all the things you DO, leaving only what you ARE. 
It i.e. excludes everything you did in the past or plan for the future. 
Then it’s really YOU who’s showing himself and dares to be seen, not your stories or the persona image you built up. 

Step 3: 

Dare to LET the other person BE as he/she really is.
That means, that you don’t put them into the box with all the other persons who look similar, dress similar, behave similar, have the same accent, decent, origin, way of living, height, colour, haircut, profession, etc. 
Can you allow the other person to be UNIQUE?
Can you allow the other person to be as she is?
Can you allow the other person to have all the problems, difficulties, stories she’s carrying around?

Can you allow the other person to fearfully hide behind her mask or fake personality and still be authentic and open-hearted yourself?

Can you allow the other person not to be as conscious about meeting authentically as you might be now?


Step 4: 

Dare to SEE the other person as he/she really is. 

Are you ready to see the unexpected? 

Are you ready to disappoint yourself because you didn’t manage to have no expectations? 

Are you ready to see the beauty in the other person? 

If you’d LOVE something in the other person, what would it be? 
(Yep, that works with someone you met 1 second ago. Most times even better than with friends and relatives, because when you ‘know’ the person already your mind takes over to summarize everything you ‘know’. If you don’t ‘know’ someone, your intuition has to jump in and you have to establish a real connection to someone, to let’s say “feel” who he or she is.)

Are you ready to tell the other person, what you love? 
Are you ready to be told what others love in you?


If you follow these 4 simple steps, I promise you, you’ll be a few steps closer to a true connection. A connection from soul to soul, instead of mask to mask.

There have been a lot of different translations of the greeting «Namasté». One of them can be
»My soul is greeting your soul« or
»My inner divine being is honouring your inner divine being«
Using this greeting is a daily chance to show others and yourself, respect for the perfect divine being we really are - unconditionally - independent of what we did or said in the past, of any so-called mistakes we made, outer appearance or fear-related behaviour we are showing, like envy, anger, aggression, defensive insulting etc. We then, just “see” or “feel” the other one’s perfect core that didn’t change before, during or after birth and has no given worth but it’s pure existance as a manifestation of life energy.

Dare to connect! 

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and have real connections to real people,